Recently I took a leap of faith and applied through a competitive process, to work on a project for a person I admire. I was really excited about this opportunity, but a week later I found out that I wasn’t selected. At first, I felt disappointed; I was really looking forward to the opportunity to learn from him and to this new experience. I allowed myself to feel sad and go through the negative thoughts that came up. Soon after I gave myself permission to feel that way, those feelings and thoughts went away. I also received some encouraging emails from supportive friends.
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For the past couple of years, I’ve been a part of a woman’s group called “Creative Conversations”. Take a look at one of the group founders’ posts about one of our meetings here: Creative Times, A Blog for Artists and Entrepreneurs, by Eleanor Traubman. We meet regularly and discuss different topics and work on unique projects as a group. This December meeting is about reviewing our accomplishments in 2010. I’ve been thinking about it a lot, since I’m co-organizing it this time. I realized that it is important to consider all areas of life, because if you are disappointed that you haven’t accomplished something huge, you may be leaving out the smaller accomplishments you’ve achieved so far.
I’ve been thinking about this, and I realized that it only takes one person, one action, one statement, one book to help us move forward with our deep inside goals and dreams. When I decided to launch WomenandBiz.com over 7 years ago, I actually had two people supporting and encouraging me to do it, one was my accountability partner, and one believed in me even though I wasn’t sure myself I could do it.
I love Seth Godin's inspiring blog post about Interpreting Criticism.
In “Ask Others, Trust Yourself”, I discussed how you can turn criticism and negative business feedback into something positive. Here are a few steps to take:
- Ask for feedback from others: Find out if more than one person has the same negative opinion about your project/idea/business strategy;
Thursday, September 16, 2010 - 6:00 PM EDT
Science, Industry and Business Library (SIBL), 188 Madison Ave @34th Street, Conference Room 018 (Map and directions) - Lower Level
Asking for help when starting and growing your business is essential. Equally important is checking in with yourself to make the right decisions before taking action. Elisa Balabram, founder and editor of WomenandBiz.com, and author of "Ask Others, Trust Yourself: The Entrepreneurial Woman's Key to Success", will discuss what you need to know before asking for business help, how to find the support you need, how to best deal with negative feedback, and how you can learn to trust yourself using specific tools.
Seating is limited. Seating is on a first come, first seated basis.
The New York Times published this great article: http://www.nytimes.com/2010/09/02/business/smallbusiness/02sbiz.html by Pamela Ryckman on How to Choose and Work with a Mentor. I would suggest two additional steps I mention on "Ask Others, Trust Yourself":
I’ve learned a few years ago to ask myself “what’s the lesson”, when life throws a challenge at me. Oprah also says she asks herself: “What is this here to teach me?”
You can use the same question for your business. When:
At the end of the radio interview with Wendy Hanson, she asked me to say one word that would help me move forward. My word was “commitment”. Why commitment? I can speak from experience that if you are not really, fully, completely committed to your idea, your vision, your purpose, it is not going to happen, or you are not going to make it happen. I was able to finish writing and publishing “Ask Others, Trust Yourself”, only after I committed to it. The day that I did it, I could no longer procrastinate, stop writing, let naysayers or fears take over. I had to keep going. What could you commit to today, that will propel you into taking action?
Wendy’s word for the day was “Action”. I like the idea of having a word to lead the day, and help you stay focused and accomplish your goals. Feel free to post your word of the day.
Last night was the last of the 8-week program I took with Lena West founder of xynoMedia Technology and guest writer of WomenandBiz.com, called Real Women Do Social Media. She taught us the importance of choosing the right social media tools for our businesses, of knowing our customers, of finding our voice, of having a schedule to blog and be present on social media, and of calculating the return on investment in each strategy we take. Many of them are strategies we are constantly hearing about and doing around the traditional marketing tools, but Lena points out how crucial it is to take similar steps within the social media world. She also shows women how to find their own voices. Lena has her own unique voice - in her articles and blog posts, she tells it like it is, and it is refreshing.
I’m looking forward to implementing all that I learned from Lena West. To learn more about the program and register for the next class, please visit www.realwomendosocialmedia.com.
My first step after taking the class was creating a schedule to blog, and I’ll be posting my thoughts, experiences, challenges and advice more often from now on. If you read anything that you like, feel free to post comments and join the conversation.
Wendy Hanson, co-author of The Sassy Ladies’ Toolkit for Startup Businesses, interviewed me for TheSassyLadies Blog Talk Radio show. The Sassy Ladies book is a great tool for someone who wants to start a business and it has a lot in common with Ask Others, Trust Yourself. For example, they also recommend that you don’t ignore the naysayers, but that you actually check in with yourself to see if the advice is valid. I also like the way they help you breakdown your vision for your business, into small steps you can start taking today. To learn more about the book, its authors and The Sassy Ladies, visit: www.thesassyladies.com. Here is a link to listen to the interview and learn what you need to know about asking for business help: http://bit.ly/cuDxwW
Thank you, Wendy!